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The process of what happens in
therapy is easy to understand. While dealing with emotional states, and
gaining insight into our behaviors may be more complicated, it helps to
know the steps that will be taken, to assess at any given time, where
you are in the process.
1. What do
you want? Four small words which can
present a very complex dilemma. After all, how can we be happy until we
clearly define what it is we are seeking? People tend to know that they
are unhappy, and while caught up in the negative emotions of that
distress, they are not easily able to define the nature of their needs.
This takes a process of self discovery first.
2. What
have you needed to do, in order to get what you want out of life?
This part of the therapeutic work deals with
coping skills, self esteem, understanding your resources and exploring
additional options of which you may not be aware. Money is sometimes
like a drug and its power is in its use. We are very aware that a money
addiction underlies the money; the money is only a vehicle to either
escape or defer the real issue.
3. What has
prevented you in the past from being able to achieve what you need?
This is where your therapist can be of
the most value to you. Learning how our own thinking, feelings, and
subsequent behaviors can actually be what is preventing the results we
seek can be a great learning experience. It might mean going back to
look at life from the very beginning to assess the information we were
given about how to deal effectively in our world. Stepping outside our
lives, and seeing what has happened to us, through the eyes of another
person, can really help to gain a totally new perspective. It can cause
a lot of confusion, when we try to understand ourselves, and it can be
painful to recall some of our past experiences. These periods of
confusion are normal in the process of change, but nevertheless are
difficult. It helps to have a "guide" to help keep the momentum through
this uncharted territory.
4. We tend
to avoid emotional pain, and usually take the path of least resistance
which is spending, gambling, drinking, or buying.
With the aid of a therapist the painful, negative,
and avoided emotions are shared, defined, explained and put in the
healthiest context. The Money Addictions therapist is also trained to
help you understand unconscious processes which come into play,
effecting your emotions and behaviors, but are not readily apparent but
may cause you to act out in your addiction.
5. The more
understanding you gain, the more your sense of control increases,
until you take over as your own guide. This process of emotional
development leads to changes which can bring an increased sense of hope,
self esteem, and confidence to meet your goals in life. What a wonderful
exchange for the anxiety, depression, and hopelessness many people deal
with daily. It can be a hard, but ultimately a very exciting adventure! |
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